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Spiritual Leaders 3--A Friend

4/21/2014

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            The year after I began teaching Bible classes I dated a fourth year Bible student at Florida College.  I was only a senior in high school, but lived just across the river from Temple Terrace, only a mile as the crow flies from campus, and we attended the same congregation.  I accompanied him to his various preaching appointments and we visited at gospel meetings most Friday nights. With him I had my first experiences on campus at Thursday night devotionals down by the river. 

            The night he picked me up after play practice at high school, my stock there went through the roof.  Here I was, the quiet girl who kept mostly to herself, whom no one had ever seen with any guy at all, and suddenly a six foot stud appears who makes all the boys there look about 12, and he has come for me!  His name was Steve Bobbitt.

            The relationship came to its natural end when he graduated and moved on to his first preaching job and I graduated high school with a couple of scholarships and a major in mind.  So what did he have to do with my spiritual development?

            Exposure for one thing.  From him I first heard the words homiletics, hermeneutics, and apologetics.  He didn’t assume a girl wouldn’t care about such things, or even understand them.  We often studied together and I’d flip through his classbooks, real college textbooks about the Bible, which fanned my curiosity.  He answered my questions like they were important, not like they were a bother.  He listened to my thoughts and opinions like they made sense.  Today, even some of the men who know I am not an idiot still have that slight air of condescension about them when I say something about a Bible subject.  But Steve listened—he treated it like an investment he cared about.

            I made the mistake once of complaining about “being a woman and not getting to do anything.”  We were headed somewhere down a dark two lane highway, but he immediately pulled the car over and gave me a lecture that amounted to, “Don’t ever say that again.  There’s plenty you can do.”

            For graduation he gave me a one volume commentary that I have nearly used up, especially in preparing classes and writing class material.  Part of his inscription reads, “Here is a book to help your understanding of the Book of books.  May the Word of God ever guide you along the roads of life until you at last pass safely through the Arch of Triumph.”

            I have met two of Steve’s children, and one son-in-law.  It is apparent that he continued in his duties as a spiritual leader all through his life, which ended far too soon a few years ago.  He has already found that “Arch of Triumph” and I plan to see him there again one day.

            We were young, but this man, even in our youthful relationship, one that was bound to end in a few months, felt a responsibility toward me.  A man’s duty as a spiritual leader is not confined to family relationships.  It’s about whoever you come into contact with, especially in a relationship where you are the natural leader, whether by age or gender or role or, in our case, a few of those things combined.  He left an impact on me that the next man, the last one, could bring to completion.  Because of the three men who came before, the pump was primed, but the job was not yet finished.

Iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the mind of his friend,  Prov 27:17.

Dene Ward


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7 Comments
Edwin Crozier link
4/21/2014 05:44:43 am

Thank you for your kind words. I've always known I have big shoes to fill with trying to be a spiritual leader for Marita. I never realized how big until reading this.

I've got lots of growing to do.

You know what, he always treated me the same way. Even when I was a fledgling preacher, wet behind the ears, certain I knew everything and really needed to be taken down a notch or two, he was always patient and treated me with respect.

Thanks for this reminder.

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Dene
4/21/2014 07:07:44 am

You are so welcome, Edwin. I have been privileged to meet you and Marita (and your dad too, I think), and also Rebekah when she sang in the chorus with Nathan. Steve and I talked several times through the years but I had always hoped for him to meet Keith. Now I guess we will just have to wait, but meet again we will.

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Marita Crozier
4/21/2014 07:51:09 am

Well, getting on Facebook and reading this has certainly made my day! An unexpected blessing amidst life's everyday turmoil. I couldn't help but laugh at the "six foot stud" comment, ha! But I was in tears moments later when you described the way he listened to you in a way that made you feel important, because he excelled at that and it is one of the things I miss about him the most. He was a very attentive and present person, you never felt like he was only half-listening, or that he only wanted to talk about himself. It was one of his most distinguishing characteristics that made him so special. I'm pretty biased, though. :) Thank you for sharing this. I enjoyed hearing you speak at lectures and meeting you in person. He always spoke of you with the highest regard and it was pleasant discovering that once again, he was right.

Much love,

Marita

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Dene
4/21/2014 11:04:26 am

I hope someday we can talk together for awhile. It would be great to see him through your eyes, and maybe to see him in you as well.

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Nathan Williams link
4/21/2014 02:22:50 pm

Hey Mrs. Dene,

This was really a treat for Rebekah and me today! Thanks so much for sharing this. I have been slowly putting together a website in honor of Steve, and I was wondering if I could post this on there in remembrance of him?

Thanks,
Nathan

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Dene
4/22/2014 05:26:33 am

Of course, Nathan. That would be fine.

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Nathan Williams link
4/22/2014 03:39:50 pm

Thanks! I posted it here: http://stevebobbitt.nathanbekah.com/2014/04/23/remembering-steves-college-days/




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    Dene Ward has taught the Bible for more than  forty years, spoken at women’s retreats and lectureships, and has written both devotional books and class materials. She lives in Lake Butler, Florida, with her husband Keith.


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