The problem is, we judge them by what they eventually became, forgetting that they did not start there, any more than we started where we now are in our journey of faith. We don't allow them to grow. The Abraham and Sarah in Genesis 12 were not the Abraham and Sarah in Genesis 22. So where did Abraham and Sarah really come from?
Ur, of course, but what was that? Ur was a city-state in an alliance of other Sumerian city-states. We have already seen that it was a thriving metropolis. Besides that, it was thoroughly pagan. Every city in the alliance had a ziggarut at its center, devoted to the pagan god it worshipped. (All of this comes from the Holman Bible Atlas.) Abraham grew up not only in a pagan culture, but also in a pagan family.
And Joshua said to all the people, “Thus says the LORD, the God of Israel, ‘Long ago, your fathers lived beyond the Euphrates, Terah, the father of Abraham and of Nahor; and they served other gods (Josh 24:2). The real wonder is that Abraham and Sarah came to have any faith in God at all. Yet they did, which is a clear vindication of Paul's statement in Romans 1 that the pagans were "without excuse" in their failure to recognize God (Rom 1:18-22). Somehow that couple believed and God got them out of that culture where He could carefully cultivate their faith over the last half of their lives.
And so here is the lesson: in our society it has become the rule to blame our culture, our parents, our community, whatever else we can blame for our failure to live righteous, godly lives, or at least a law-abiding, productive life that recognizes a standard of goodness toward others. Even people in the government are ready to excuse criminals "because they don't know better." If they do not know better, it is their own fault. At least that is what God says about it. Anyone in any culture can pull themselves out of it and do right. In fact, it you were to find people who did that and ask them about it, they would be the ones who most staunchly deny that how you are raised is an excuse that counts for anything at all. Is it difficult to get yourself out of the mess you find yourself in? Of course it is, but life is never easy. When we teach our children that it should be, we are setting them up for failure every time.
Even the people who came out of Ur with Abraham and Sarah never really lost their cultural baggage. Laban had gone to shear his sheep, and Rachel stole her father's household gods (Gen 31:19). But Joshua told their descendants, as they came to the Promised Land, that the choice was theirs—they were not bound by their raising. And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the LORD, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD (Josh 24:15).
We always have a choice. No one can take it away from us. It may be difficult, but that has never constituted a valid excuse to God. He wants us to serve Him. He may have given Abraham and Sarah a little boost by removing them from their culture, but why can't we do exactly the same thing? We can, if we truly want to. No one is ever forcing us to do otherwise.
I have Your decrees as a heritage forever; indeed, they are the joy of my heart. I am resolved to obey Your statutes to the very end (Ps 119:111-112).
Dene Ward