Some folks might say, "You weren't," thinking, that is. But the truth is that you were. You were thinking about how wonderful he was and all the sweet things he said and did when he was courting you. That's all you were thinking about—the good, the overwhelming good, that wins someone's heart.
And today, when you asked yourself that other question? Well, today you were thinking about the bad, the frustrating, irritating, aggravating, thoughtless things he does, and you were dwelling on them over and over and over.
No, it is not always that simple, but in many cases, when I see a woman crying because of a man, or a man stewing because of a woman, it is exactly that simple. So today's short but simple lesson is this: stop focusing on the bad, the things you don't like about him or her. Start remembering the good things he does for you, the sweet remembrances, the kind gestures, the handpicked wildflowers and the cup of coffee before you get out of bed. And remember, he sometimes asks himself that question too, so give him some good things to think about today. I bet you both will feel better tonight.
Set me as a seal on your heart, as a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death; ardent love is as unrelenting as Sheol. Love’s flames are fiery flames — the fiercest of all. Mighty waters cannot extinguish love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If a man were to give all his wealth for love, it would be utterly scorned (Song 8:6-7).
Dene Ward