How different is the Biblical perspective! In God's Word, marriage and love are for the tough-minded. Marriage is commitment, and, far from backing out when the going gets tough, marriage partners are to sort out their difficulties in the light of Scripture. They are to hang in there, improving their relationship, working away at it precisely because they have vowed before God and man to live together and love each other…until death separates them. Love is the determined commitment to seek the other's good, to cherish, shelter, nurture, edify, and show patience with one's partner. And this commitment, worked out because of deep-rooted obedience to God, brings with it the emotional and sentimental aspects of love as well.
The Sermon on the Mount, An Evangelical Exposition of Matthew 5-7, by D. A. Carson
Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of thy life of vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all thy days of vanity: for that is thy portion in life, and in thy labor wherein thou laborest under the sun (Eccl 9:9).